Thoughts on The Rule of St. Benedict - August 2008

Recently my husband watched a documentary on the life of St. Benedict and The Rule of Benedict (RB). The RB includes humility, silence and obedience. What intrigued him was the vow of silence St. Benedict required of the monks. Silence led to prayer of mind. “In a flood of words, you will not avoid sin.” Proverbs 18-21. There is tremendous power in silence. It is reported that St. Benedict could cure the sick because his energy was not scattered on meaningless activity: he was able to bring all of his personal power to focus on an individual.

Our conversation around the topic of silence generated my examining of when I talk too much. Maybe, because I am always thinking, at times I speak when it is not necessary. In fact, I am aware of having spoken when it is inappropriate and thoughtless.

A good example of inappropriately speaking is giving advice when not asked to do so. Inappropriate advice can be mistaken for criticism or a put down. Giving driving instructions, without any prompting, is certainly a time when I might stay quiet. I might stop interrupting my husband’s reading to share a thought that can easily be shared at a better time, such as when we are walking or having a snack together. I certainly do not have to tell my grandchildren to be quiet when they are laughing and having a wonderful time. In debates, I do not need to state my point more than one time. In addition, I certainly do not need to put forth my political candidate when my friends are enjoying highlighting theirs.

Talking less to my dog is another good idea. Too much talking confuses the dog. A simple “No” or “Heel” is sufficient. The dog will not waste time testing. Often a simple yes or no is the only response my grandchildren want.

Growing up in Catholic schools during the 1940s and 50s, the nuns taught that everyone should examine their conscience before going to bed. This was to reflect on our sins, repent, and vow to not sin again. I still believe it is helpful to reflect on my behavior at the end of the day (it gives me the freedom to change); I like the rule of silence because it is a soft reminder throughout the day to stay present to the moment, or to be conscious. I can do so much more with my life when I am conscious. Learning about The Rule of Benedict, written mid-sixth Century, has given me a wonderful new aid to stay in the moment.

When I visit the dentist, I feel anxious. Therefore, I focus my mind on the Sun Salutation and breathe through each movement. It immediately relieves my anxiety, because one cannot be thinking and breathing through each stage of the Sun Salutation and remain stressed. If I were able to talk during this time, I would reinforce my anxiety.

My suggestion to you if you talk at the wrong times, feel stressed or worried, focus on your breath. Thicht Hahn calls this mindful breathing:

Breathing In, I am aware of breathing in:
Breathing Out, I am aware of breathing out.